http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/en-UKhttp://backend.userland.com/rss092http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/http://data5.blog.de/design/preview/5c/67726edc4d35a96e876dd965c96628_160x200.jpg <p>Are you ready for real love? In this day and age of fast-paced and short-lived relationships, it's challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information that helps to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you're single, married, divorced, or looking-to-be-married, these time-tested steps will help you and your current or future mate to create a long-lasting romantic bliss:</p> <p>1) Always Be Your "True" Self</p> <p>You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to act or try to become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation, then something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what you bring to the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you're being pressured to alter your character to do things you wouldn't usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will continue to see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace you just for who you are-so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.</p> <p>2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other</p> <p>A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both look good arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie Theater, or at church, can you talk when you're alone? What's going on in your conversations-are they deep and meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk about the weather and the plot to the latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening ear, good advice, and undivided attention?</p> <p>Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you deeply connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in your relationship.</p> <p>3) Don't Ignore, but Explore Your Differences</p> <p>Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is on the pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel each other. It's important that your personalities are compatible.</p> <p>If one views life through rose colored glasses, while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to make some sort of adjustment to accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but they don't mix well in romantic relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and find some sort of balance. If you can adjust and love each other's personalities, regardless of any differences, and bring out the best when you're together, then this is a winning combo, and you could very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.</p> <p>4) Share Similar Interest and Values</p> <p>You don't have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences can help you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at least a few common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to keep you both satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports, politics, movies, shopping, music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn't mean depriving each other of their individual interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.</p> <p>5) Discuss Your Spiritual Beliefs Together</p> <p>If you're not on common ground with your beliefs about who and what God means to each of you, this will eventually cause a rift in your relationship. Don't try to conceal your true beliefs and hope that it will all just one day fall in place-it won't. Make sure you talk about your faith honestly and openly with each other. There's a wise adage that states, "The couple that prays together, stays together."</p> <p>6) Appreciate Each Other's Unique Body Temple</p> <p>Let's face it, we're all built differently. We come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and shades. In order to have a healthy physical and emotional relationship, you must embrace and appreciate each other's total package. One of the worse things a couple can do to each other is to fantasize or try to fit their mate into someone else's body image. When you throw away preconceived "ideal body type" perceptions, you'll enjoy the true worth of your partner.</p> <p>I remember years ago, one of my college friends, Nicolette, a five-foot-eight-inch, former beauty queen, adamantly refused to date any man under the six-foot mark. Her preconceived idea of the "ideal match" was "an athletic hunk who would be paid well for playing ball-footfall, basketball, or baseball would qualify him-as long as he had the height, the muscles, and the billfold." Well, after many heartbreaks, shallow relationships, and adopting a completely new outlook on life, she eagerly reports that she has been very happily married to a five-foot-five-inch dentist for over five years and "has since been blessed with two wonderful children to complete her healthy marriage."</p> <p>Nicolette would have missed out on the love of her life had she remained stuck with false perceptions. Don't let this happen to you. Admire, appreciate, and enjoy your companion's body temple.</p> <p>7) Talk About "The S-&M Factor" (Sex & Money)</p> <p>Two of the biggest destroyers of healthy relationships are the misuse, abuse, lack of or over-use of sex and money (the S & M Factor). Both are very important and very personal in your love life. Yet, unfortunately, most couples make the mistake of not setting quality time aside early in their relationship to discuss these two vital components. To put it bluntly, "You've got to know where you're heading, before you get to the bedding; and know what you're spending before it gets beyond mending."</p> <p>In deep romantic relationships, there is a world of difference between "having sex" and "making love," just as there is a major difference between being "involved" and "being in love." The misuse of sex, just like the misuse of money, causes major turbulence in relationships. These can be dangerous influences which overwhelm your relationship; or they can be healthy tools for intimacy and success. It's up to both you and your partner to know what sex and money means to each of you, and to make sure that you share your beliefs and feelings with each other. Otherwise, both the sex and money issues can become major conflicts which will destroy even the deepest love.</p> <p>8) Try to Get Along With Each Other's Friends-n-Families</p> <p>Although your happiness ultimately depends on how well the two of you get along with each other, some input from loved ones can be frosting on the cake. Do you have a healthy interaction with each other's close associates? Make sure you ask some supportive family members and/or dear friends their opinion about your choice in mate. If the advice is not what you want to hear, examine it closely, evaluate the source, pray about it, and make up your own mind anyway. Make sure you also meet your mate's family and closest friends, and discreetly observe their interactions with each other. Look if there is any dysfunctional family pattern that you need to address and get help with. There is a wise old saying, "Show me your company, I'll tell you who you are." Chances are, if your partner has a healthy interaction with loved ones, you will also get the same treatment-and so much more!</p> <p>9) Stay Away From Negative People</p> <p>It's important to make a special note here, that although the interactions of relatives and friends can be a plus in building a healthy relationship, some, unfortunately, can also be a minus. If you face unhealthy interference and discouragement from loved ones because of their personal insecurities, don't let them have any influence in your relationship. Both you and your mate must be on the same page and decide to keep negative people out of your personal love life in order to love and grow together in a harmonious, healthy relationship.</p> <p>10) Learn to Laugh Together</p> <p>This one doesn't need much explanation-if there's no joy, there's very little hope. Laughter keeps love alive. Find something that you can both get a good hearty laugh from. Here's a little secret that works wonders: A good sense of humor and a pleasant disposition has a magnetic attraction that makes people always want to be in your presence. How can that special person resist your gorgeous smile and sparkling eyes? Go ahead, laugh a bit-have fun and enjoy!</p> <p>There you have it-the practical, useful and effective steps that will surely enhance your current or future relationship. You deserve to have an enjoyable, exciting, and loving healthy relationship with someone who loves you, just for who you are. You are worth it!</p> <p>Michael B<br> <a href="mailto:miko_ik@yahoo.com">miko_ik@yahoo.com</a><br> +234 802 746 0192</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/10/19/10_easy_steps_for_a_healthy_relationship~3161406/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/10/19/10_easy_steps_for_a_healthy_relationship~3161406/Fri, 19 Oct 2007 13:44:16 +0200 <p>Why do some women always have men pursuing them, no matter what their age? I have a friend who is 74 who continually has interesting successful men asking her out. When I grow up, I want to be like her. She has sparkle. She has charm. She is a man magnet.</p> <p>Recently, I asked a popular man magnet what some of her strategies were for attracting men, and research substantiates many of her points. Here are five secret tips to help you attract the man you want:</p> <p>* Stand in the middle of the room.</p> <p>Whenever you go to a party, try standing in the center of the room. (Don't hunch your shoulders, slouch, or wear a pair of shoes that hurt your feet so much you can't stand to stand.) Move around a little, talk with people near you, but if you want to be in a position to choose who you want to meet, never sit down. Stand smack dab in the middle of the crowd. When you see someone interesting, move near them--gracefully-- and start a conversation.</p> <p>* Stand at the corners of the bar.</p> <p>If you are at a bar, pub, or nightclub, staying at the corners of the bar is a good position. It's easier to meet people there. Bartenders tend to talk to the people at the corners also. The worst place to be seen is hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table or booth with other people. You are more difficult to approach if you are in a huddle with others. Go places with friends, but break away from them periodically and talk to people on your own.</p> <p>* Look your best. </p> <p>This may sound too obvious, but you never know where or when you are going to meet someone. Never go out of the house without looking your best. Even if you are headed to the gym or a run around the block, put on some lipstick and comb your hair. Know what colors you look good in, and wear attractive clothes in your best shades. Men are attracted to pink-peach. That color is flattering to most skin tones. People are also attracted to you when you are wearing the color(s) of your eyes. (You have multiple colors in your eyes--choose clothes that include one of those colors.)</p> <p>* Be aware of your body language. </p> <p>Body language is everything. Smile a lot, look people in the eyes, and when you see someone you are interested in, tilt your head, drop your eyes, and then look back at him. This may sound contrived, but it helps to know what subliminal messages are being sent by your actions. Apparently, giving your hair a slight flip is also an attraction signal, as well as stroking the inside of your arm or your neck. If a man is standing across the room, this is one way to let him know that you would be interested in talking to him.</p> <p>* What not to do.</p> <p>Attractive women know not to: talk about themselves non-stop, fold their arms, chew gum, pick at their nails, jiggle their foot, or crunch ice. All of this behavior suggests anxiety, frustration, or poor manners. Also--don't talk about your Ex. That is a major turn off.</p> <p>When you go out and see attractive single men you want to meet, practice the above five secrets. Being a man magnet simply means that you are in control of the outcome of your evening, your week, and your life. Enjoy the adventure!</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/how_to_attract_men_five_secrets_for_wome~2990501/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/how_to_attract_men_five_secrets_for_wome~2990501/Sun, 16 Sep 2007 21:00:44 +0200 <p>We've all had that special woman in our lives. You know... the one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and a perfect face. She dates the more "adept" guys... but how can you get her to like you?</p> <p>While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality. A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead and get what he wants out of life.</p> <p>Ironically, what this means then is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you.</p> <p>That's because to get a girl to like you, you should come from a mindset of high value. Never come from a position of neediness.</p> <p>So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are:</p> <p>1. Nonchalance.</p> <p>2. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. (By that I mean, if she likes you that's awesome, but if not, there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.)</p> <p>The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you. Instead you should be a challenge for her.</p> <p>In addition to placing a high value on yourself, you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Women are easy to make friends with.)</p> <p>Also date as many women as you can... don't restrict yourself only to dating "that one special girl."</p> <p>You see, the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that special woman is, "God, I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem.</p> <p>Also, whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she too feels attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon... and it's much more powerful in women than men.</p> <p>Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four babes at his table? That's social proof in action.</p> <p>By the way, it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to feel something strong for her.</p> <p>Here's the key though... you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as that girl you really like.</p> <p>If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind, then that gives her power over you, and, ironically, makes her lose attraction to you.</p> <p>So, you're free to think that a woman's amazing. Just remember that lots of other girls are amazing too. That way you won't become needy.</p> <p>So remember, place a high value on yourself, make her earn your attention, and hang out with as many women as possible... those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/how_to_get_a_girl_to_like_you~2990488/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/how_to_get_a_girl_to_like_you~2990488/Sun, 16 Sep 2007 20:58:21 +0200 <p>Your first date is probably the most date of all. Because if it does not go well, the chance is you will not get another chance to make it up. Therefore, you should try to your best to make the first impression. Follow these tips to make your date unforgettable.</p> <p>Plan your date: A great date requires planning and research. It requires a great deal of thinking. You need to take your date to place that will impress him/her. For instance, if your date is athletic and active, you may want to take him/her to roller blade, swim, job, etc. If your date does not like sport, you may want to take him/her to the movie or museum.</p> <p>Have An Element Of Surprise: Keep your date excited. Don’t tell him or her where you plan to take them. For instance, you can blindfold your date until you reach the destination.</p> <p>Dress Up: You want to look your best. You do not only impressing your date with nice cloths when you dress well, but you also show you date that you respect him/her.</p> <p>Be respectful: Always be respectful to your date. Even if it does not go well, it is important to be on your best behavior.</p> <p>Have a good table manner: Your table manner is very important on the first date, because the other person don’t really know you. When you eat, try to avoid eating smelly and messy food. For instance, if you eat noodle, don’t slurp with loud noise. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/how_to_make_your_first_date_unforgettabl~2990480/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/how_to_make_your_first_date_unforgettabl~2990480/Sun, 16 Sep 2007 20:57:02 +0200 <p>One of a growing number of reasons frustrated singles turn to the help of a dating coach is to help them overcome fear of commitment or help them deal with a lover’s fear of commitment.</p> <p>If you’ve been reading my articles, by now you know that for many years I was a commitment phobic. In one case, I backed out of a proposal the moment the words “yes” left my mouth. I got out of that one by pretending the “yes” was a joke. The other time, I just didn’t turn up at my own wedding - left the groom waiting at the altar. The third time, I really wanted to conquer the fear I had of commitment and decided the best way to do this was to do the “proposing”. Needless to say, I really made a complete ass of myself. The guy said “no”. As it turns out, it was the same guy I had said “yes” to and backed out by claiming it was a joke. The joke was on me the second time round…</p> <p>So how did I overcome my fear of commitment - by facing my “demons” head on. My own experiences have provided me a lot of reference in my work helping other people overcome their own fears of commitment.</p> <p>If you are fighting “commitment phobia”, you will identify with one or more of the most common fears men and women have about the commitment. And who knows may be you too will soon be enjoying a fabulous committed relationship – I am! And if you are in a relationship with someone struggling with making a decision as to whether to move on or not, you can show him or her that you are sensitive to his or her fears by helping him or her discover and confront his/her fears. Some these fears and anxieties are obvious; others are subtle.</p> <p>1. Fear of the unknown.</p> <p>New experiences and demands can be stressful. You don't know just what is round the corner, and you worry about this. You are more content to stick with status quo than to opt for an uncertain future. This fear is especially pronounced in those people who lack self-confidence and the fear can escalate when demands are made on us.</p> <p>2. Fear of making a mistake</p> <p>The decision not to decide is itself a decision, and frequently a mistake! This fear is common among men and women who have more choices they can pick from and the more the choices the greater the fear. You fear that you will regret the decision tomorrow, next week, or next month and so delay and drag out the process hoping that you won’t make a mistake or fail.</p> <p>3. Fear of losing family and friends</p> <p>We all rely on the support of family and friends. You fear losing those people who do not approve of your decision (family, friends, children from previous marriage etc) because you have a strong need for the social approval of others. But this fear is not simply about not being able to handle their anger or rejection but fear of when things go wrong – and having them say “I told you so”.</p> <p>4. Fear of losing control.</p> <p>We all want to feel that we have choices and are in control. And part of the sense of control is in being able to control the timing of a relationship (when and how it’ll happen). What usually happens is that everything is going on well, but once you feel that you are losing that control you freak out and back off.</p> <p>Often if we have a bad experience we are influenced by it and almost expect history to repeat itself, setting up negative expectations. To overcome your fears pay attention to what you are privately saying to yourself when confronted with fear? What are the are your underlying personal beliefs about the fear. Write these beliefs on the left side of a piece of paper. On the right side, challenge your beliefs as if you were on the opposite side of a debate.</p> <p>Next, go back to the last time(s) you experienced any of the fears above and didn't cope well with it leading you to doubt yourself. Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that will happen this time?" Then again challenge your beliefs as if you were on the opposite side of a debate. You’ll be surprised how easy this is. By taking another side from your usually mindset, you’ll open your mind to another viewpoint.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/fear_of_commitment_and_how_you_can_defea~2990475/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/fear_of_commitment_and_how_you_can_defea~2990475/Sun, 16 Sep 2007 20:56:12 +0200 <p>Being in love is wonderful. There's nothing like it. But when it comes to start making decisions about commitment, sometimes you have to follow your head, not only your heart. With over 33% divorce rate in the United States, and over 50% infidelity rate, it's imperative that you know if he is the one for you, or that what your heart is telling you won't survive the test of time.</p> <p>Before you rush into a commitment which may end in disaster, you need to make sure that your man and yourself share similar views about the important aspects of life and marriage.</p> <p>Here are some things you have to find out what he thinks about before making a commitment:</p> <p>1. Children - How many does he want to have, who will take care of them, where will they go to school, etc.</p> <p>2. Religion - Does he believe in God, is he practicing some sort of religion, does he respect your views on religion and God, what religious upbringing will your children receive, etc.</p> <p>3. Your career - Does he expect you be to a housewife or will you work, does he support your career, is he alright with the possibility that you may be more successful than him, etc.</p> <p>4. Money - Does he plan to support you, what are his career prospects, does he plan to start his own business, how does he view work, etc.</p> <p>5. Marriage - Does he believe in marriage, how does he view infidelity, etc.</p> <p>There are a great deal more questions that you need to ask before making a commitment, but these 5 topics are the most important and a great place to start. Don't be afraid to ask questions. It's much better to find out things soon, than have a divorce later.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/how_do_i_know_he_is_the_one_which_questi~2990436/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/09/16/how_do_i_know_he_is_the_one_which_questi~2990436/Sun, 16 Sep 2007 20:49:51 +0200 <p>First impressions are more important than ever now that research has proven that it only takes a few minutes to predict whether a relationship is in the cards with those we meet for the first time. </p> <p>There's good news for all of us hopeless romantics, romance-novel addicts and chick flick junkies. It turns out there's scientific merit to that whole "Love at First Sight" thing. </p> <p>In fact, a recent study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships showed that the first few minutes of meeting someone has a huge influence on the course the relationship will ultimately take. (Which explains why you know before the drinks come that your "just perfect for you" blind date is a no-go, or that hunky online hottie has definite possibilities.) </p> <p>Below are three tips to help you rev up your "first site" vibe, and add a little vaa-vaa voom to that crucial first three minutes: </p> <p>Wear red. Or blue.<br> For women who want to create an on-the-spot thrill, wearing red is the way to go. According to colour experts, red is the most stimulating colour you can wear. In fact, wearing or seeing red actually increases blood flow, and mimics attraction.<br> If you're a guy, your best bet is to go true blue. Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the Pantone Colour Institute says women are attracted to men wearing the colour blue. Eiseman says, guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful and always there." The blue guy is perfect for a serious relationship: he's reliable, faithful and can match his own clothes. </p> <p>Smile.<br> Psychology and body language experts agree that smiling is one of the fastest and best ways to make yourself more attractive and approachable. It's not necessary to look like you're trying out for "Used Car Salesman of the Year" — just your usual "I'm happy to be here and I'm having a fantastic time" face will do the trick. </p> <p>Instant Chemistry.<br> A study at the University of Chicago has shown that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To kickstart your allure, women can wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented lotion or perfume.<br> According to Laura Davimes, aromatherapy expert, and owner of Herban Avenues, "Wearing cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like substances and dramatically increases attraction."<br> The food-love connection continues: Women, according to the study, are drawn to a black licorice scent. So, keep some licorice in your shirt pocket. And, if you're at a nightclub and just happen to spill some Sambuca on your shirt, hey, don't worry about looking like a slob — just consider it your lucky night. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/04/02/proof_of_love_at_first_sight_ten_minutes~2022667/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/04/02/proof_of_love_at_first_sight_ten_minutes~2022667/Mon, 02 Apr 2007 22:18:01 +0200 <p>There are many things you can do to keep love alive and fresh, even in a relationship that’s been going well for awhile. Follow these easy steps to refresh your romance.</p> <p>If you’re in a relationship, you know it’s easy to relax when love blossoms. But just because things are going well now, doesn’t mean you should stop putting in the effort relationship-wise. All partnerships require work to make them successful.</p> <p>So how do you keep the love in your life? </p> <p>Say thank you<br> Showing appreciation for the little things is something that can fall by the wayside when a relationship passes from the honeymoon stage. But try not to take things, even the little things, for granted; it’s a sure-fire way to lose that loving feeling </p> <p>Compliment each other<br> Remember the reason you fell in love in the first place? The winning smile, the sparkling eyes, the way she dances, the way he always holds the door for you... Complimenting your loved one daily is a great habit to get into. Remind him of how handsome he is. Tell her that you appreciate something nice she did for you... Little things go a long way when it comes to love's longevity. </p> <p>Three little words<br> You know you love your partner, but do you let them know often enough? It’s easy to assume that your partner knows they are loved by you. But there’s nothing nicer to hear than those three little words from the one you love. Say it often, say it with flowers, say it with passion, say it in a letter. Just remember to say it! </p> <p>Make time for sex<br> Two busy people can equally be too busy for sex. But don't let the pressures of work and social commitments distract you from this essential part of a healthy relationship. While passion and lust naturally wane as a relationship becomes older, don't become lazy and complacent when it comes to your sex life. There's plenty you can do to keep the passion alive, just use your imagination. </p> <p>Start dating again<br> Sound corny? But think back to the days when you were getting to know your partner for the first time. Remember the thrill of those first meetings, the candle-lit dinners, the long walks, talking all night about nothing and everything. There's no reason to lose that loving feeling, so help keep the excitement and anticipation in your love life by making a regular date with your partner. You could spend the morning in bed reading the Sunday papers, then head off to a local market, antique shop or junk store and browse for hours. When you get home, why not cook a meal together following a favourite recipe? </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/04/02/how_to_love_longer~2022642/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/04/02/how_to_love_longer~2022642/Mon, 02 Apr 2007 22:12:53 +0200 <p>Finding Your Perfect Match </p> <p>Most people have an idea of their 'type' when it comes to meeting someone new — tall, dark and handsome; slim, blonde and athletic; cuddly, friendly and reliable. These are all characteristics of the kind of person we are looking for, and usually take into account physical attributes, personality type and emotional traits. </p> <p>But what about the 'type' of relationship we are looking for? This could range from short-term commitment, to someone to grow old and dribbly with, and yet for most people, the importance of a match in this department is not fully considered until things are well established, relationship-wise. </p> <p>We've all heard stories of the seemingly perfect couple who, to everyone's surprise, go their separate ways after years of being together, because one wants kids and the other doesn't. Ever. </p> <p>Or the couple that splits because he wants more quality time with her, and she wants to spread her wings? Classic relationship mis-matching. </p> <p>Finding someone who'll make you happy and contribute to creating the kind of relationship you want requires some thought and effort on your part. Wafting through life without giving our relationship criteria some consideration might work for a lucky few, but for most of us, it ends in disappointment. </p> <p>To get the most out of your relationships, be they long or short term, it pays to assess what you want at the start. Some key questions that you should answer when entering into a new relationship are: </p> <p>The marriage question<br> Have you been fantasising about your wedding day since you were a child? Or would you be just as happy having some other sort of commitment such as a mortgage with your partner? </p> <p>The future question<br> Do you have visions of growing old and grey with your partner? Or are you more of a serial monogamist, who's happy to have a few good years with someone before moving on to the next relationship? </p> <p>The kids question<br> Is the tick from your biological clock deafening you? Or does the thought of snotty little brats fill you with dread? What do you think about a relationship involving children from a previous marriage or relationship? </p> <p>The best friend question<br> Do you want your partner to be your best friend, or is there someone else in your life that your partner will never compete with when it comes to being a best friend? </p> <p>The details question<br> Is it necessary for you to hear about every little incident and thought your partner has day in, day out? Or do you prefer to have some emotional space, preferring to hear only the Reader's Digest version of what your partner’s been up to? </p> <p>The (in)dependence question<br> Are you looking for someone to do absolutely everything with, from your home life to your hobbies? Or are you happy with spending time being independent as well as together? </p> <p>The sex question<br> Are you prepared to be in a relationship where the sex is so-so if every other aspect of the relationship is excellent? Perhaps sex is the most crucial aspect of your relationship? Identifying this up-front can help you choose more suitable partners. </p> <p>Taking stock of what's important to you when it comes to a long-term relationship is a great start to finding the right person to share your life with. Keep in mind that your relationship criteria may change over time, and will also be influenced by other areas of your life such as work, family and friends. When looking for love, it pays to have an understanding of your perfect relationship, not just your dream guy or girl. Keep your relationship checklist up-to-date and refer to it when looking for someone new — and who knows? You just might find your perfect match. </p> <p>A perfect ending<br> "I am deliriously happy. Being what some refer to as middle-aged, I was tentative about Internet dating. I had concluded that it was only for twenty-somethings after seeing the TV ads! I decided I had nothing to lose though and went ahead anyway. Within a week I was contacted by the wonderful man who has become the love of my life! We agreed to meet for coffee. We just walked, talked, dined and gazed into each others' eyes all along Melbourne's Southbank. Now, eight months later, we are planning to spend the rest of our lives together. I still cannot believe how quick it was to find that special someone.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/04/02/the_perfect_relationship~2022624/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/04/02/the_perfect_relationship~2022624/Mon, 02 Apr 2007 22:10:26 +0200 <p>Work environments, sporting interests, religious involvements, and political movements are all common areas that we get involved in and want to share with another. Our relationships are more intimate when we share more interests than the bedroom. </p> <p>The most intimate relationships, those more intricately intertwined, are the most stable and long lasting.</p> <p>A fake interest, one conjured up in order to appeal to another person and get them interested in you, conveys the illusion of an opportunity for intimacy. No wonder your partner is disappointed to find out he/she was deceived.</p> <p>On the other hand, a real interest (and the resulting intimacy) can be developed. </p> <p>I am amazed at how interesting virtually everything is when I know more about it. On the surface, most things appear pretty dull. When you dig deeper and gain an understanding of the players, the tactics, the intrigue (in sports, work, church, you name it), those formerly dull areas become exciting. </p> <p>If you want to be more intimate, be more involved. Don't fake it! </p> <p>If you do, you are not only lying, you are missing out on the fun! Take the time to actually find the fascination, to become involved, and you will not only be rewarded with increased intimacy, you will have grown as a person. </p> <p>So, how do you get there? </p> <p>Ask your partner (or the person you would like to have as a partner) about the subject. Become an aggressive student, learning all about it, from history to the present, and then start anticipating the future.</p> <p>Or surprise your partner (or potential partner) by studying the subject on your own. Let him/her know you figured that if someone as interesting as this partner found the subject interesting, you would be "missing the boat" not to know more about it, too. </p> <p>You have just become irresistible. </p> <p>We all want to be around people we can relate to, and this is most important in the areas we are most interested in. The more obscure and unusual your shared interest, the more valuable the bond.</p> <p>Anyone can share a sexual intimacy but only you offer that unique intimacy. You win! </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/25/intimacy_and_shared_interests~1969834/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/25/intimacy_and_shared_interests~1969834/Sun, 25 Mar 2007 04:31:20 +0200 <p>You can improve or beat the odds of having your relationship or marriage end in dissolution. With practice and patience you can become a world-class partner. These additional suggestions and techniques for improving your relationship based on over three decades of working with couples in clinical practice. </p> <p>Be Realistic. Couples often go into marriage with idealistic notions of what marriage is all about. These ideas are handed down from generation to generation or gleaned from popular magazines, TV shows, or simply conjured from their own fantasies of what they would like. Each individual should make clear what their explicit and implicit expectations are and clarify these expectations such that they are clearly understood by one another. Where there are discrepancies, a mutually satisfying compromise must be reached. </p> <p>Do Not Take One Another For Granted. This can be a killer for a relationship. It usually occurs sometime after the honeymoon period. When our partner feels taken for granted, not respected or acknowledged, and feels that others are a higher priority than him/herself, resentment brews. A regular "state of the union" check-in with your spouse as to how s/he is feeling about the relationship can help avert resentment build-up. </p> <p>Regular Meetings. There are two types of meetings that can facilitate communication: a business meeting and a date night. Couples often find that scheduling regular business meetings, just as one would do in a business partnership, to discuss the business of the marriage is helpful and indicates that the marriage is a high priority in their life. Date night is one evening each week set aside for the purpose of emotional connecting. No business matters are discussed. Each partner takes responsibility on alternative weeks for planning the date, just as they might have done during courtship. Dates do not have to be elaborate events. A picnic on the bedroom floor or at the park at sunset can be every bit as romantic as a $100 dinner. </p> <p>Keep the Romance Alive. Maintaining the romance in a relationship is vital to the vibrancy of the relationship. Once folks marry they often become quite lax in this department. They allow business, chores, and children to get the way of their romantic life. In a busy life, especially if there are children, it takes considerable effort to maintain romance. But it is worth it. It takes planning, creativity and commitment. </p> <p>Develop Sexual Skills. People believe that having sex is just "doing what comes naturally." Believing this is like thinking that world-class ballroom dancers are simply born -- no rehearsals, no practice, no innovation, no experimentation, and no mistakes. No one would believe that Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers did not practice in order to be graceful as they appeared on screen. The same holds true for sexual activity in the bedroom. Good lovers are made, not born. Many times men and women believe that somehow the man is supposed to "know" what to do and be good at it. Fearing failure, they do only what is tried and true. One of the most common problems that couples have is the lack of innovation. Sex becomes boring. Such predictability can lead to staleness and apathy. Communication about sexuality, and the willingness to experiment will keep the bedroom activities exciting, interesting and fun. </p> <p>Be Complimentary. It costs nothing to compliment your partner and it sure feels good to receive them. We are often chary about paying compliments to our mates, letting them know that we think they are pretty/handsome, smart, clever, well-dressed, kind, a good parent, etc. We do not have to wait until some occasion when we purchase a greeting card to let our mates know that we think they are special. </p> <p>Show Appreciation. Another small thing that feels good. Thanking your partner for making dinner or taking out the trash, picking up clothes from the dry-cleaners, and in general letting him/her know that s/he is appreciated can go along way in creating a caring environment. Couples are very quick to criticize one another when chores do not get done, but they are very remiss when it comes to showing appreciation. </p> <p>As you can see from the foregoing, maintaining a contemporary marriage is no easy task. It requires hard work. To think that a successful marriage -- that is a relationship between two people that is fulfilling, enhancing of one's sense of self-esteem, emotionally gratifying, nurturing, and supportive -- can be achieved by merely living under the same roof without investing effort and time, would be naive thinking. Some individuals believe that marriage should be easy, and if it is not, they think something is wrong. </p> <p>Marriage, like any other worthwhile endeavor, requires patience and practice. When there is difficulty, it may require outside help. Just as a business may require a consultant, so too might a marriage. Today's relationships are complex and dynamic entities that become even more complex as children enter the picture. For then there are additional dynamics that must be incorporated into the mix. Maintaining a long term relationship is one of our most significant challenges. </p> <p>Uche Ikechukwu Benson<br> <a href="mailto:haiklassxtian@yahoo.co.uk">haiklassxtian@yahoo.co.uk</a> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/25/making_your_marriage_work~1969828/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/25/making_your_marriage_work~1969828/Sun, 25 Mar 2007 04:23:54 +0200 <p>You have recently found out that the man you love is cheating on you. The word cheating doesn’t always mean the act of having sex, but it could be a dependency on seeing another woman, the need to hear her voice, a need to please her. So, you have caught him in the act of cheating on you, and now you want to bring him back into your life. Can you really learn to forgive him for straying from your heart? This is a tough question only few women are going to be able to answer truthfully. </p> <p>You can bring back the man who is cheating on you, no matter how far the cheating has went, and no matter how bad the hurt is really inside your heart. The trick to bringing back a man is to think back to a point in your life together, that will show you what he loves the most. Does he have to be babied all the time? Does he want supper on the table at a certain hour?</p> <p>Does your ex feel that he should be making the money in the home? On the other hand, perhaps you have always given your complete attention to this man? While you want to bring back the man you love, and change his ways there are a few things you will have to change as well to bring him back and keep him. You can be sneaky or just outright changed, but it will depend on how much you want this man back in your life. </p> <p><u>What Should You Do To Keep The Relationship</u>? </p> <p>You can be sneaky about the attack. If you feel certain you love this man, and you want him back find out where he will be and when he will be there as often as you can. Make it a point to be in the same places, and at the same parties. Get your hair done, your nails done, and be fun loving self. Talk to everyone in the room but him the entire night so he feels your presence but not your attention. As you are getting ready to leave for the night, be sure to say hello, and nothing more to your ex, but it is important to do it with a smile. </p> <p>After a few ‘run ins’ like this on several different occasions you are going to be on his mind all the time which will lead him to want you more and more, until he calls you. The only way this sneaky method is going to work is if you are able to act as if nothing bothers you, avoid the fact he cheating, don’t talk about it with others in the room and more importantly don’t embarrass either of you by saying anything in public. Build his awareness of your creative sexiness, and availability without giving him the satisfaction of seeing you mope around. Be fun, loving, and sexy with every one in the room, as you make him notice you are a woman who can get by without him. Most men feel the urge to be in a woman’s life when they realize they are not needed, as strange as it may seem. </p> <p><u>How Do You Decide It is Time To Leave The Relationship</u>?</p> <p>The pain you feel every time you see your ex, no matter how much you love him is going to help you determine if it is time to leave him. If you feel you, need him back only because he left you, or that because his heart is not following yours own, it could be time to leave the cheater behind? </p> <p>The pain you feel because you love a person, unconditionally is different from the pain you feel because you have been ‘dissed’. How can you tell the difference? If you feel angry because he is cheating, you are not truly missing him. If you want to hurt him, you are not truly in love with him. If you miss how he holds you, talks with you, or you miss how you spend time together just being together; you miss him and should think about taking the cheater back. </p> <p>Should You Give Him A Chance?</p> <p>The decision to let him go is going to be one that is difficult to make, but you can make it on your own. The feelings of anger, and embarrassment are going to be two feelings that are difficult to overcome. These feelings are going to put a roadblock in the relationship forever, as you can never rebuild the trust while these feelings are present. If you can’t get passed the anger, and the feeling of abandonment, you should leave him where he is with someone else. If you feel confident in yourself, and in your abilities to get by without the man, but you miss him in your life you should try to get him back.</p> <p>The only real reason to give a man, who has cheated on you in some or in any manner, is going to be based on the fact of love, and not a need. If you need him to care for the children, if you need him to pay the bills, or if you need him for other materialistic things, you should leave him be, no matter how hard it is. If you want the man in your life, just because of the love, you have shared, and the memories you have built together, you should track him down and make him yours again. </p> <p>Being together, as a couple for love no matter what else, is reason enough to track the man down and give him another chance – but overall you are going to have to sit back and do some serious thinking about the relationship before taking that leap. Find the difference between the need and the want and you will be able to confront yourself, making a solid choice for your life and the cheating man.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/20/women_how_to_bring_back_an_ex_who_is_che~1937148/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/20/women_how_to_bring_back_an_ex_who_is_che~1937148/Tue, 20 Mar 2007 06:05:58 +0100 <p>Would you like to possess the power to be able to penetrate into your partner's thoughts and know exactly what he or she wants? Imagine having such jedi-like powers at your fingertips.</p> <p>Well, you can! If you will learn how to hold the keys to your partner's heart and mind and make him yours forever.<br> Kenneth Goode is an outstanding figure in advertising and selling and I do recommend his books if you are interested to find out more about him and his teachings. </p> <p>When I read about his eight insights about people, I can still remember that I'm beaming with excitement as this might hold the formula to understand what your partner will do.<br> Although Kenneth Goode is speaking to an audience that is supposedly to be interested in selling and advertising (to people), his wisdom and insights about people can help us to understand what people do the things they do, and of course "people" include yourself and your mate.</p> <p>His eight insights about people are:</p> <p>(1) Follow a habit until it hurts<br> (2) Accept his beliefs ready-made and stick to them until the cows come home.<br> (3) Follows his leaders, eyes shut, mouth open.<br> (4) Work hard to establish superiority in the eyes of his equals.<br> (5) Find his greatest interest in his own emotional kicks.<br> (6) Yield to suggestion when properly flattered.<br> (7) Love low prices and dislike economy.<br> (8) Glorify the past and discount the future.</p> <p>Remember, you cannot change your partner into someone you like to see; you cannot force your another person to become that which you want him or her to become.<br> Here's an invaluable tip for you. If you are want to influence your partner; if you want to persuade him to do something or to see your point, don't say it out loud or even point it out to him. Try, instead, to make him think that that idea comes from his own. </p> <p>Why? People always "accept his beliefs ready-made and stick to them until the cows come home".</p> <p>Most people hate to be told what to do. Most people hate to know that their ideas are wrong. In fact, people hate it even more when you point it out to them.</p> <p>So, if you want to attract a new mate, make it seem like he or she is the one who wants to be with you!</p> <p>If you want to bring back a lost love, your first step is to make sure you don't make it seem like you want him or her back. Depending on your relationship or marriage circumstance, most people hate to be told that they should come back to your side. To them, it just spells more trouble.</p> <p>Make yourself indispensable. If you have a hot temper, find ways to solve this problem. If you are too clingy, find the solutions to do away with your clingy-ness. If you know the mistakes you have done, correct them. </p> <p>Your partner will find his or her way back to you all without your asking when they "know" that you are someone they would want to spend their life with afterall. I now understand that there are certain things we cannot change about people, because that is the way people are! If you are always finding yourself eveloping in self-pity in a failing relationship, or if you are always finding yourself wanting your partner to behave in certain ways, I hope you understand these insights and apply them to your life and to your relationship because they can liberate you. Many times, it is not your fault afterall. </p> <p>Wrtie these eight insights down and stick them on your desk where you can see them daily.<br> I will write more about how these insights can be applied to any types of relationship as and when I have more tips to share with you on this site.</p> <p>Master these insights, and you can be well on your way to hold the keys to your partner's heart and mind; or rather, anyone's heart and mind.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/20/how_to_hold_the_keys_to_your_partner_s_h~1937136/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/20/how_to_hold_the_keys_to_your_partner_s_h~1937136/Tue, 20 Mar 2007 05:59:10 +0100 <p>Ten Reasons Why Sex Should Wait Until Marriage</p> <p>1. Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you. </p> <p>2.Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life. </p> <p>3. The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women. </p> <p>4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage. Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way. </p> <p>5. Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure. </p> <p>6. Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married. </p> <p>7.The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage. </p> <p>8. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences. </p> <p>9. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care. </p> <p>10. If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you. </p> <p>True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all - the love nest of marriage. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/12/consequences_of_premarital_sex~1893786/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/12/consequences_of_premarital_sex~1893786/Mon, 12 Mar 2007 22:30:53 +0100 <p>Do you know how to make relationships last? Would you like to know the secrets to successful marriages? If you are searching for a relationship that goes on and on and endures throughout time, you need to consider the following points. There are four major predictors that determine which relationships will survive and which ones will not. </p> <p>Why Relationships Fail: Four Predictors </p> <p>The power of positive versus negative comments </p> <p>People in failing relationships look for what is wrong with others (especially their mate) instead of what is right. During a conversation where the two people held opposing views, the ones who had a good relationship said something nice to the other one five times more than they said something critical. In relationships that don't last, the ratio of good comments versus bad ones to each other was one to one. </p> <p>Accepting responsibility to be in a committed relationship </p> <p>When one or both people don't take responsibility for their commitment and allow themselves to be attracted to others, they are in trouble. Some people feel there is nothing wrong with a little "harmless" flirtation. On the contrary, research shows that in every close conversation, there is the possibility of secreting oxytocin (a hormonal chemical) that creates a bond. These interactions can make people feel like they are falling in love. But people can consciously choose not to cross a boundary when they feel even slightly attracted to someone else. They can change their focus. They do not have to be a victim of this attraction. </p> <p>Forgiveness </p> <p>There is no "perfect" relationship and even the best ones will have some ups and downs, but is is how couples ride those rough times that determines if the relationship succeeds. People who are good at relating will try to repair any damage that is done in their partnership. They will offer apologies and make gestures to right what has caused hurt. </p> <p>Attitude </p> <p>Understanding that you need to teach others how to treat you in order to get your needs met will move you from the victim column into the winning column. There are, however, some attitudes that indicate a relationship will break up. The kinds of behavior that will erode closeness are contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling. </p> <p>Why relationships don't last is profound but simple. You need two people who treat each other with love, affection, respect, and support, and have a commitment to each other. You deserve a love that lasts--so think about the above.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/10/four_reasons_why_relationships_don_t_las~1880625/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/10/four_reasons_why_relationships_don_t_las~1880625/Sat, 10 Mar 2007 16:57:25 +0100 <p>Why is it that love plays such an insignificant role in relationships? Well that is a complex issue but let me try to explain.</p> <p>Love, true love originates and is felt in the Heart of the individual. It is associated with feelings of joy, light heartedness, inner peace, contentment with life, a sense of being care free, an deep inner wisdom and a child like attitude towards life to name a few.</p> <p>It is something that we are all born feeling but with time and age the Heart starts to close down. This shutting down occurs each time we experience something that the Heart gets hurt by. Now by "hurt" I mean two different things.</p> <p>On the one hand there is the common definition i.e. being hurt equals being disappointed when something that is desired doesn’t come to pass.<br> Additionally though it means that it, the Heart is not honored as the essence and center of that individual's life choices or decisions. By this I mean that when the Heart feels passion for something, that passion represents that Heart's desire for that thing.</p> <p>Now because that feeling of passion equates, in my view one's life force, one's reason for being, one's core values, indeed what one values and gives meaning and color to their life, when it is ignored it is equivalent to the individual being ignored.<br> When that individual "suffers" a series of such slights the Heart slowly, bit by bit starts to shut down. As it does the individual not only becomes numb to the feelings that emerge from there i.e. love, joy sadness, light heartedness, passion etc. they also become numb to themselves i.e. who they really are.</p> <p>This is equivalent to saying that they stop "feeling themselves" and hence start to feel a deep sense of emptiness inside. This feeling state, is associated with such things as low self esteem, low self worth, low self confidence, fear of being alone, inadequate, fear of not being loved and so on.</p> <p>When this happens they become desperate to reclaim some of their self esteem, self worth, self confidence, sense of security, love and so on. Rather than looking for all this from within they "think" instead that it can be gotten from without. That is from someone else through a relationship.</p> <p>This is when their need, which is really a need to reclaim the Heart, passes itself off as love and becomes the motivator for starting a relationship. Of course since the need can only be filled by the Heart itself, the partner's ability to fill this need will always fail.</p> <p>Having said all of this, the important point to be made is that for a relationship to be successful, the Heart of an individual must be sought first, must be re-opened, and the real person who is represented by that Heart must be fully present and alive first.</p> <p>If you pursue this path then you will not only know real love, you will have success in relationship and life beyond your wildest dreams. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/10/why_relationships_don_t_last~1880543/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/10/why_relationships_don_t_last~1880543/Sat, 10 Mar 2007 16:38:35 +0100 <p>Have you ever noticed that the second that you introduce sex into a relationship, it begins to slide into a bottomless pit and die? At least we wish that it would die. We should only be so lucky. Our society has created a group of high paid buzzards known as family law lawyers who circle waiting for the partners to part, at which time they move in for the kill, using a host of false promises and lies to suck the money and the spirit and the children and the lives out of the entire family. Gay men and women are fighting like cats and dogs for the right, the privilege to marry one another. There has to be some bar association behind this insanity.</p> <p>A Platonic friendship between a man and a woman, or a man and a man, or a woman and a woman, or a sheep and a goat, is where there is no sex involved. These types of relationships are named after a Greek Philosopher, Plato, (that was his wrestling nickname), who lived 2,500 years ago, 500 years before Jesus. Mary and Joseph had a platonic relationship, if you don’t count Jesus’ brothers. This sibling jealousy over Jesus having been born immaculately is the root of why the Jewish people do not believe in Jesus Christ, the God of 2 billion people today.</p> <p>It is well known that Plato, his teacher Socrates, and his student Aristotle, were old pedophiles who lived to have sex with beautiful young boys. What isn’t as well known is why sexless relationships are called Platonic. Their philosophy was that the longing and desire for the beauty of the boy was the root of the relationship and that their sexual desire for the boy is what set the relationship on fire. Socrates was executed for corrupting the youth of Athens, not by his sexual shenanigans, but for questioning everything and everyone, including the Goddess Athene, the protector of Athens.<br> Blasphemy aside, it is a known fact that platonic friendships between men and women last, and sexual relationships between men and women do not. Why is that? Is it because I think therefore I am? Wouldn’t it make more sense to say “I think and this is evidence that I am?”</p> <p>Actually Socrates hated his wife. He had three children with her, and said that learning to live with her enabled him to be able to cope with any other human being no matter how malevolent. How did she feel being married to a man moonwalking backwards on the top of his car at his internationally televised trial for pedophilia and dangling his newborn son upside down off the top balcony of the Paris Hilton? People who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, if they have any.</p> <p>Enough about Mick Jagger, who openly admits to sympathizing with the Devil. At the time when Plato was prancing around with young boys, sleeping in bed naked with them but not touching them, the Jewish and the non Jewish residents of the Holy Land were sacrificing their first born sons alive on fire altars south of Jerusalem to the God Baal. The Jewish Priests lured the people into the Holy Temple built by King Solomon with Temple Prostitutes. Jesus Christ’s best friend was a prostitute and her girlfriends were prostitutes. So lets recap: 2 billion people on Earth today believe that the Universe and its trillion stars, the other planes of existence, and everything on Earth was created by a Jewish Rabbi named Jesus Christ who was born to a Jewish couple having a platonic relationship, and that soon Jesus will return flying down from Heaven on a flying white horse to defeat the armies of Satan, a part goat, part lion, part snake on his flying horse accompanied by his army of flying jockeys, a dead on plagiarism of the Greek Myth of Prince Bellerophon, and his flying horse Pegasus defeating the Chimera. When the level of violence and gullibility on Earth has reached such epic proportions it is amazing that that any couple can stay together without killing each other for over 5 minutes, sex or no sex.</p> <p>The reason that sex kills a relationship is because it’s dirty. It’s expensive. We’re talking prenups. Ask Kanye, a modern philosopher who penned the tome Gold Digger. The 6 billion people on Earth today are cutting down every tree, our only source of Oxygen, to make Kleenex, because it’s cheaper than fine dining. This is the root of global warming. High priced lawyers. Did you know that Jesus never once mentioned the word Hell in his life? If you pick up a New Revised Standard Version of the Holy Bible, every time that Jesus says “Hell”, there is an asterisk beside the word “Hell”. If you look in the fine print, next to the vibrator battery section, the footnote says that in the original Greek versions of the Gospels, every time Jesus said Hell, he really said Gehenna, or Sheol, the place underground where both good and evil spirits lived after death. Did they mate there? How did they get along? So, the question is, why do your modern Bible Writers put their own word “Hell” into your Holy Bibles, and remove Jesus’ words Gehenna or Sheol, 1,435 times? Who cares about Plato? We’re all about to go up in nuclear flames while we heat up the sheets, whether it’s with our mates or our lovers or young boys, it’s all a diversion to make the lawyers rich.</p> <p>Once upon a time there was a man named Lot, after whom the Lotka was named. God spared him and his 2 daughters because Lot was the only righteous man in the two cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. Lot had two young virgin daughters. Since there were no longer any other people on Earth, in order to keep humanity going, they gave their dad some wine, and slept with him, and had children. He didn’t know that it was them, even though they were the only 3 people on Earth, he didn’t recognize his own daughters in his bed, because he had 2 glasses of wine. We are all their direct descendants. And you want to know why sex destroys relationships? It’s because we’re all insane. And the irony of all ironies is that our map to creating paradise on Earth forever is hidden right in our Holy Bibles underneath tons of rubble, said Jesus Christ, and God of Mount Sinai through every single Biblical Prophet. This is why they were stoned. For delivering God’s message. You still refuse to hear it. And soon you will all burn alive in the nuclear inferno you create, Slaves Of Satan. Rudolph is a hundred to one at Churchill Downs. Merry Christmas, and remember to think positively, as if that will help. “You’re far better off pleasuring yourself”, said Plato to Euripides, in the Dialogues. “Your relationships and your genitalia will last longer.” Euripides: “You can say that again.” Plato: “Once is enough. I redundate, therefore I am.” Continue to probe the great mysteries of life. It’s all just a dream. Sleep. Sleep.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/10/platonic_friendships_last_relationships_~1880531/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://hitsales.blog.co.uk/2007/03/10/platonic_friendships_last_relationships_~1880531/Sat, 10 Mar 2007 16:36:50 +0100