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Why do some women always have men pursuing them, no matter what their age? I have a friend who is 74 who continually has interesting successful men asking her out. When I grow up, I want to be like her. She has sparkle. She has charm. She is a man magnet.

Recently, I asked a popular man magnet what some of her strategies were for attracting men, and research substantiates many of her points. Here are five secret tips to help you attract the man you want:

* Stand in the middle of the room.

Whenever you go to a party, try standing in the center of the room. (Don't hunch your shoulders, slouch, or wear a pair of shoes that hurt your feet so much you can't stand to stand.) Move around a little, talk with people near you, but if you want to be in a position to choose who you want to meet, never sit down. Stand smack dab in the middle of the crowd. When you see someone interesting, move near them--gracefully-- and start a conversation.

* Stand at the corners of the bar.

If you are at a bar, pub, or nightclub, staying at the corners of the bar is a good position. It's easier to meet people there. Bartenders tend to talk to the people at the corners also. The worst place to be seen is hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table or booth with other people. You are more difficult to approach if you are in a huddle with others. Go places with friends, but break away from them periodically and talk to people on your own.

* Look your best.

This may sound too obvious, but you never know where or when you are going to meet someone. Never go out of the house without looking your best. Even if you are headed to the gym or a run around the block, put on some lipstick and comb your hair. Know what colors you look good in, and wear attractive clothes in your best shades. Men are attracted to pink-peach. That color is flattering to most skin tones. People are also attracted to you when you are wearing the color(s) of your eyes. (You have multiple colors in your eyes--choose clothes that include one of those colors.)

* Be aware of your body language.

Body language is everything. Smile a lot, look people in the eyes, and when you see someone you are interested in, tilt your head, drop your eyes, and then look back at him. This may sound contrived, but it helps to know what subliminal messages are being sent by your actions. Apparently, giving your hair a slight flip is also an attraction signal, as well as stroking the inside of your arm or your neck. If a man is standing across the room, this is one way to let him know that you would be interested in talking to him.

* What not to do.

Attractive women know not to: talk about themselves non-stop, fold their arms, chew gum, pick at their nails, jiggle their foot, or crunch ice. All of this behavior suggests anxiety, frustration, or poor manners. Also--don't talk about your Ex. That is a major turn off.

When you go out and see attractive single men you want to meet, practice the above five secrets. Being a man magnet simply means that you are in control of the outcome of your evening, your week, and your life. Enjoy the adventure!

We've all had that special woman in our lives. You know... the one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and a perfect face. She dates the more "adept" guys... but how can you get her to like you?

While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality. A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead and get what he wants out of life.

Ironically, what this means then is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you.

That's because to get a girl to like you, you should come from a mindset of high value. Never come from a position of neediness.

So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are:

1. Nonchalance.

2. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. (By that I mean, if she likes you that's awesome, but if not, there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.)

The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you. Instead you should be a challenge for her.

In addition to placing a high value on yourself, you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Women are easy to make friends with.)

Also date as many women as you can... don't restrict yourself only to dating "that one special girl."

You see, the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that special woman is, "God, I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem.

Also, whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she too feels attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon... and it's much more powerful in women than men.

Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four babes at his table? That's social proof in action.

By the way, it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to feel something strong for her.

Here's the key though... you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as that girl you really like.

If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind, then that gives her power over you, and, ironically, makes her lose attraction to you.

So, you're free to think that a woman's amazing. Just remember that lots of other girls are amazing too. That way you won't become needy.

So remember, place a high value on yourself, make her earn your attention, and hang out with as many women as possible... those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you.

Your first date is probably the most date of all. Because if it does not go well, the chance is you will not get another chance to make it up. Therefore, you should try to your best to make the first impression. Follow these tips to make your date unforgettable.

Plan your date: A great date requires planning and research. It requires a great deal of thinking. You need to take your date to place that will impress him/her. For instance, if your date is athletic and active, you may want to take him/her to roller blade, swim, job, etc. If your date does not like sport, you may want to take him/her to the movie or museum.

Have An Element Of Surprise: Keep your date excited. Don’t tell him or her where you plan to take them. For instance, you can blindfold your date until you reach the destination.

Dress Up: You want to look your best. You do not only impressing your date with nice cloths when you dress well, but you also show you date that you respect him/her.

Be respectful: Always be respectful to your date. Even if it does not go well, it is important to be on your best behavior.

Have a good table manner: Your table manner is very important on the first date, because the other person don’t really know you. When you eat, try to avoid eating smelly and messy food. For instance, if you eat noodle, don’t slurp with loud noise.

One of a growing number of reasons frustrated singles turn to the help of a dating coach is to help them overcome fear of commitment or help them deal with a lover’s fear of commitment.

If you’ve been reading my articles, by now you know that for many years I was a commitment phobic. In one case, I backed out of a proposal the moment the words “yes” left my mouth. I got out of that one by pretending the “yes” was a joke. The other time, I just didn’t turn up at my own wedding - left the groom waiting at the altar. The third time, I really wanted to conquer the fear I had of commitment and decided the best way to do this was to do the “proposing”. Needless to say, I really made a complete ass of myself. The guy said “no”. As it turns out, it was the same guy I had said “yes” to and backed out by claiming it was a joke. The joke was on me the second time round…

So how did I overcome my fear of commitment - by facing my “demons” head on. My own experiences have provided me a lot of reference in my work helping other people overcome their own fears of commitment.

If you are fighting “commitment phobia”, you will identify with one or more of the most common fears men and women have about the commitment. And who knows may be you too will soon be enjoying a fabulous committed relationship – I am! And if you are in a relationship with someone struggling with making a decision as to whether to move on or not, you can show him or her that you are sensitive to his or her fears by helping him or her discover and confront his/her fears. Some these fears and anxieties are obvious; others are subtle.

1. Fear of the unknown.

New experiences and demands can be stressful. You don't know just what is round the corner, and you worry about this. You are more content to stick with status quo than to opt for an uncertain future. This fear is especially pronounced in those people who lack self-confidence and the fear can escalate when demands are made on us.

2. Fear of making a mistake

The decision not to decide is itself a decision, and frequently a mistake! This fear is common among men and women who have more choices they can pick from and the more the choices the greater the fear. You fear that you will regret the decision tomorrow, next week, or next month and so delay and drag out the process hoping that you won’t make a mistake or fail.

3. Fear of losing family and friends

We all rely on the support of family and friends. You fear losing those people who do not approve of your decision (family, friends, children from previous marriage etc) because you have a strong need for the social approval of others. But this fear is not simply about not being able to handle their anger or rejection but fear of when things go wrong – and having them say “I told you so”.

4. Fear of losing control.

We all want to feel that we have choices and are in control. And part of the sense of control is in being able to control the timing of a relationship (when and how it’ll happen). What usually happens is that everything is going on well, but once you feel that you are losing that control you freak out and back off.

Often if we have a bad experience we are influenced by it and almost expect history to repeat itself, setting up negative expectations. To overcome your fears pay attention to what you are privately saying to yourself when confronted with fear? What are the are your underlying personal beliefs about the fear. Write these beliefs on the left side of a piece of paper. On the right side, challenge your beliefs as if you were on the opposite side of a debate.

Next, go back to the last time(s) you experienced any of the fears above and didn't cope well with it leading you to doubt yourself. Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that will happen this time?" Then again challenge your beliefs as if you were on the opposite side of a debate. You’ll be surprised how easy this is. By taking another side from your usually mindset, you’ll open your mind to another viewpoint.

Being in love is wonderful. There's nothing like it. But when it comes to start making decisions about commitment, sometimes you have to follow your head, not only your heart. With over 33% divorce rate in the United States, and over 50% infidelity rate, it's imperative that you know if he is the one for you, or that what your heart is telling you won't survive the test of time.

Before you rush into a commitment which may end in disaster, you need to make sure that your man and yourself share similar views about the important aspects of life and marriage.

Here are some things you have to find out what he thinks about before making a commitment:

1. Children - How many does he want to have, who will take care of them, where will they go to school, etc.

2. Religion - Does he believe in God, is he practicing some sort of religion, does he respect your views on religion and God, what religious upbringing will your children receive, etc.

3. Your career - Does he expect you be to a housewife or will you work, does he support your career, is he alright with the possibility that you may be more successful than him, etc.

4. Money - Does he plan to support you, what are his career prospects, does he plan to start his own business, how does he view work, etc.

5. Marriage - Does he believe in marriage, how does he view infidelity, etc.

There are a great deal more questions that you need to ask before making a commitment, but these 5 topics are the most important and a great place to start. Don't be afraid to ask questions. It's much better to find out things soon, than have a divorce later.